Love (n): an intense feeling of deep affection.
This week is going to be a little different. Instead of having a guest blogger, I’m going to take over the keyboard and we are going to talk about the holiday dreaded by many, but what should be loved by all. You guessed it! Valentine’s Day!
For as long as you’ve been around, you’ve probably thought Valentine’s Day is all about couples; being in the perfect relationship, giving each other chocolate and flowers, the perfect date, am I right? You think it’s a day for the boyfriends, girlfriends, fiances, husbands, and wives of the world.
Now don’t worry, I’m not going to dive into the history of Valentine’s Day and talk about Saint Valentine and all that jazz. I’m simply going to give you a different perspective about what Valentine’s Day truly is and what it means. You see, it’s not called couples day…or boyfriends day or girlfriends day or fiances day, etc. You get my drift? It’s Val-en-tines Day. So what is a valentine anyway?
Valentine (n): a sweetheart chosen or complimented on Valentine’s Day.
Okay okay…so now you’re arguing with me, right? Sweetheart is basically what you call a boyfriend or girlfriend or husband or wife or blah blah blah. STOP. I’m all about the definitions today because I’m going to make you think. So…here we go.
Sweetheart (n): a particularly lovable or pleasing person or thing.
So now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, let me tell you what I think Valentine’s Day truly is and what it means.
Valentine’s Day is a day all about love, that’s true, but love is not specific to a romantic relationship. You love your mother don’t you? Your father? Your siblings? Your friends? Your cat? Or dog…I’m not bias.
You love them right? In fact…you might even say they are…loveable? Or pleasing to you and your life? So…if they are loveable, and they are pleasing. I guess you could say that makes them a sweetheart which in turn makes them a valentine and all you have to do is choose to compliment them and you then have a valentine on Valentine’s Day.
You see, Valentine’s Day isn’t reserved for the mushy gushy couples dressed up and going out to dinner making all the single ladies and gentlemen of the world feel shitty. No! You’re only choosing to let them have this day as their own! Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love of all kinds! It’s a day for everyone! Cut the Singles Awareness Day crap, and show the people in your life you love them. Take your girlfriends out for a girls night! Guys, if you have a single mother, go show her a good time! If you have a dog, go buy them a special treat and schedule a play date at the park!
Love is not exclusive to couples. Love is all around us. It’s the foundation of our life and our relationships.
Including our relationship with ourselves.
Ooh…you were waiting for that shoe to drop weren’t you? I mean, after all, this is the weekly #SelfLoveSunday post. You had to see it coming.
Self love is not excluded from celebration on this holiday.
In fact, I encourage the celebration of self love most of all!
You don’t need another person to buy you chocolate. You don’t need another person to watch a movie with. You don’t need another person to eat a fancy dinner with. Are you seeing the pattern here?
You don’t need another person to celebrate love.
Go buy your own chocolate! Think about it, another person usually buys that expensive but tasteless set of chocolates that come in the heart shaped box. If you buy it yourself, you can get what you actually like! Personally, I’d go straight for a box of fudge brownies or a pint of Half-Baked Ben & Jerry’s. Mm mm good! Rent a movie that you really want to see or one that makes you feel good. You don’t have to worry about what another person wants to see. I’d go for a Nicholas Sparks movie or a romantic comedy. I love a good laugh and a good cry. Depends on my mood! As far as dinner goes, let’s be real. We all know Poppa John’s has heart shaped pizza on V-Day and what better way to say I love me then pizza? And it’s heart shaped! Ah!
So now that we’ve established Valentine’s Day is about love, of any kind, and it’s perfectly possible to have a great time with any loved one or even yourself, how are you feeling? If you’re still not excited about Valentine’s Day and think I’m full of crap then let me relate. Do you want to know what my big plans are for Tuesday?
This year, I’m single, my mother is out of town, and my two best friends are married. That’s right. I’m home alone with my four cats (don’t worry two of them are my moms actually), single on Valentine’s Day. But guess what? I’m not feeling sorry for myself, no. I’ve got plans with ME and I am SO EXCITED. Who doesn’t love me time? I’m going to wake up, make myself an incredible breakfast, do some POP Pilates, lay in bed and watch my favorite shows while cuddling with my kitties, and then that night I’m going to eat that heart shaped pizza and that brownie while watching Valentine’s Day (it’s kind of my tradition to watch that movie every year). After that, I’m going to sleep so well Wednesday won’t know how to handle me.
If you’re still not convinced and wondering why that even appeals to me and you’re thinking how can anyone truly be single and happy on Valentine’s Day? I’ll put it simply.
Love (n): an intense feeling of deep affection.
I have deep affection for myself. As should you all.
Loving yourself is such an important practice. It can be scary sometimes because we all have insecurities and we all worry far too much about what other people think of us. I get it. If you read my last blog post, you know. I’m not perfect. I don’t always love myself. But you know what they say? Practice makes progress.
You thought I was going to say perfect, didn’t you? Ha! Got ya.
So this Valentine’s Day, whether you are in a relationship or single, going out or staying in, excited or dreading it, celebrate love in one way or another. Love others and love yourself. If that doesn’t work…love pizza.